Archive for the ‘For Parents’ Category

Growing Greatly!

10:13AM   April 21st, 2015

Looking for a fun summer camp for your daughter? I will be hosting a half-day Villa Ventures camp focused on building girls’ self-esteem and confidence. Here’s a link to more information!

Teens & Tech

10:29AM   March 6th, 2015

This is a great article that outlines 15 different sites/apps that parents should be aware of. I encourage you to check it out and continue to have great conversations with your student about cyber safety!

The top 15 things your middle school kid wishes you knew

11:30AM   October 23rd, 2014

Did you read this article on what your middle school kid wishes you knew? I love it. I’d love it also if every parent asked their middle school (or lower school) kid about what they wished their parent knew! Kids have a wealth of wisdom to offer if we only tap into it!

Here’s one of my favorites from the article:

“15. I like it when you think I’m funny. Or interesting. Or awesome. I actually do care what you think about me. Please find something specific you actually like about me because sometimes I can’t find anything in myself to like at all. I might roll my eyes, but your words and judgments do matter to me, and I will remember them, the good and the bad. I will keep them with me like treasures even when I lose my keys and wallet and ID. Which I probably will. More than once. Sorry.”

Third Thursday: Middle School Edition

12:56PM   October 9th, 2014

Did you know that there is a new offering for Middle School students?


All students in Middle School are invited to THIRD THURSDAY! Third Thursday meets in Ms. Gutzmer’s office on the second floor during Lunch. Students may bring their lunch, a buddy, and grab a good spot as we spend some time on what’s on their minds.

For example… Did you know that 2/3 of Villa 7th & 8th graders report that they feel stressed or anxious at times? Or that the second biggest concern reported by 7th & 8th graders is their self esteem? These are common concerns among many adolescents, but often there isn’t a safe place to talk about it. Third Thursday is a low-key, informal place to learn that students aren’t alone and make plans for getting support as needed.

The first Third Thursday will be October 16th!

Questions? Email Ms. Gutzmer or fill out a School Counselor Request Form!


Article Spotlight!

12:33PM   October 1st, 2014

There are lots of great tidbits on the web this week to check out!

ADHD & Low Self-Esteem: Children with ADHD may also experience low self esteem. This article addresses 4 ways to improve self-esteem.

Fostering Health & Wellness in the Introverted Child: No person is entirely introverted or extroverted–but we all fall somewhere on the continuum. Great beginning to a series on supporting children who lean towards the introverted side of the spectrum.

How many “iRules” Does Your Family Have?: Timely article about parenting & technology, as well as a link to a iRules Contract that families can utilize as an example one family used to set boundaries for their 13 year old son’s new iPhone.

Parenting as a Gen-Xer: Washington Post article written by a parent about the challenges of being the first generation of parents in a world of tech-everything.

Teen Extremes: Regulating Moods in an Age of Anxiety

1:25PM   September 23rd, 2014

Villa Parents, on October 27th there is an excellent opportunity to see one of the leading therapists in our area, Dr. Marsha Linehan speak about anxiety in adolescence. The program is put on by ParentMap and Villa families are offered a discount by using discount code KAST14.

Click here for details: 2014 Linehan Kastner flyer


Rude vs. Mean vs. Bullying

1:58PM   September 17th, 2014

Have you ever wondered about the difference between these words? There was a great post recently on HuffPost Parents about the distinction and importance of using the accurate word when describing dissatisfactory social interactions. You can check it out HERE; it’s well worth the read!

In the article Singe Whitson, who is a Child/Adolescent Therapist and works on bullying prevention, defines the difference for us clearly:

RUDE: Unintentional comments or actions that hurt someone else

MEAN: Intentional comments or actions that hurt someone once (maybe twice)

BULLYINGIntentional, aggressive comments or actions that occur over time that involves an imbalance of power

Ms. Whitson goes on to say:

“I have already begun to see that gratuitous references to bullying are creating a bit of a “little boy who cried wolf” phenomena. In other words, if kids and parents improperly classify rudeness and mean behavior as bullying — whether to simply make conversation or to bring attention to their short-term discomfort — we all run the risk of becoming so sick and tired of hearing the word that this actual life-and-death issue among young people loses its urgency as quickly as it rose to prominence.

It is important to distinguish between rude, mean and bullying so that teachers, school administrators, police, youth workers, parents and kids all know what to pay attention to and when to intervene.”


Thought-provoking and important!

Local resources

1:32PM   September 17th, 2014

From time to time I will be sharing local resources that may be of interested to Villa parents. If you have a resource you’d like to share, please send it along! You can email me at

The Puget Sound Adlerian Society offers a calendar listing many classes and resources. You can view the calendar HERE. It is a very comprehensive list that is updated frequently with the most up-to-date information.

Teaching Parenting the Positive Discipline Way is coming to Seattle, facilitated by Stacy Lappin, M.Ed. in October. You can learn more HERE.

Q: “How was school?” A: *Crickets*

2:13PM   September 11th, 2014

Parents, after school you are most likely eager to hear all about what your student has been up to throughout the day–what they’ve learned, how their friends are, what kind of homework is on the agenda. Have you ever asked your child and been met with a blank stare, shoulder shrug, or an “I dunno.”

The Reading Bungalow put together a list of 47 questions you can ask instead of the “How was school today?” These give your child an opportunity to reflect and share about the different elements of their day. Check out the list here!

School Counseling Program Disclosure

7:06PM   September 9th, 2014

Dear Parents,

Be sure to check out the School Counseling Program Disclosure. I’m happy to answer any questions you and your student might have!

Looking forward to a great year,

Ms. Gutzmer