Archive for September, 2014

Teen Extremes: Regulating Moods in an Age of Anxiety

1:25PM   September 23rd, 2014

Villa Parents, on October 27th there is an excellent opportunity to see one of the leading therapists in our area, Dr. Marsha Linehan speak about anxiety in adolescence. The program is put on by ParentMap and Villa families are offered a discount by using discount code KAST14.

Click here for details: 2014 Linehan Kastner flyer


Rude vs. Mean vs. Bullying

1:58PM   September 17th, 2014

Have you ever wondered about the difference between these words? There was a great post recently on HuffPost Parents about the distinction and importance of using the accurate word when describing dissatisfactory social interactions. You can check it out HERE; it’s well worth the read!

In the article Singe Whitson, who is a Child/Adolescent Therapist and works on bullying prevention, defines the difference for us clearly:

RUDE: Unintentional comments or actions that hurt someone else

MEAN: Intentional comments or actions that hurt someone once (maybe twice)

BULLYINGIntentional, aggressive comments or actions that occur over time that involves an imbalance of power

Ms. Whitson goes on to say:

“I have already begun to see that gratuitous references to bullying are creating a bit of a “little boy who cried wolf” phenomena. In other words, if kids and parents improperly classify rudeness and mean behavior as bullying — whether to simply make conversation or to bring attention to their short-term discomfort — we all run the risk of becoming so sick and tired of hearing the word that this actual life-and-death issue among young people loses its urgency as quickly as it rose to prominence.

It is important to distinguish between rude, mean and bullying so that teachers, school administrators, police, youth workers, parents and kids all know what to pay attention to and when to intervene.”


Thought-provoking and important!

Local resources

1:32PM   September 17th, 2014

From time to time I will be sharing local resources that may be of interested to Villa parents. If you have a resource you’d like to share, please send it along! You can email me at

The Puget Sound Adlerian Society offers a calendar listing many classes and resources. You can view the calendar HERE. It is a very comprehensive list that is updated frequently with the most up-to-date information.

Teaching Parenting the Positive Discipline Way is coming to Seattle, facilitated by Stacy Lappin, M.Ed. in October. You can learn more HERE.

Q: “How was school?” A: *Crickets*

2:13PM   September 11th, 2014

Parents, after school you are most likely eager to hear all about what your student has been up to throughout the day–what they’ve learned, how their friends are, what kind of homework is on the agenda. Have you ever asked your child and been met with a blank stare, shoulder shrug, or an “I dunno.”

The Reading Bungalow put together a list of 47 questions you can ask instead of the “How was school today?” These give your child an opportunity to reflect and share about the different elements of their day. Check out the list here!

School Counseling Program Disclosure

7:06PM   September 9th, 2014

Dear Parents,

Be sure to check out the School Counseling Program Disclosure. I’m happy to answer any questions you and your student might have!

Looking forward to a great year,

Ms. Gutzmer